Here is what she wrote on her facebook page
This
is a very personal choice, and there is no right or wrong answer. If your
partner is remorseful and is willing to work it out, I would suggest trying to look
at it from this vantage point. My observation has been that when most people
cheat, they are trying to solve a problem. They are usually in some kind of
emotional trouble or confusion that they believed the cheating would relieve. What's interesting is that most of the time the cheating has
nothing to do with YOU.
Now the question becomes, are you willing to put all
ego aside and reach for some deep compassion to try to figure out what the
trouble is, and, as partners, try to solve it? Know this, if someone has
cheated on you who truly loves you, they have hurt themselves as much as they
have hurt you. This makes for a great opportunity to deepen the relationship
with thorough honesty, which creates deeper respect with some serious setting
of boundaries. This is also when love gets real and true and illuminates what
you are made of as a couple and as individuals. Situations like these could be
the windows to a deeper commitment OR... to two separate paths on the way to
look for new partners. Only the unique nature of your specific relationship can
be the telling factor.
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