Sunday, 10 June 2018

Men stop comparing! a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush -Vivien Nwandu



Men are easier to please than women….(quote)..Fair enough. But you men need to cherish what you have…remember that saying a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush! In my last post I talked about what value is a woman adding in her partner’s life… Today I am asking the men apart from providing finances, what other ways can you make your partner see you as ‘one in a million’ Remember money cannot buy love……(you don’t want to be the type who just provide money and your partner ‘still’ cheats on you….

Ok its time for us to xpress ourselves on some of the issues men forget most times…

I will focus more on
1.Touch
2.Communication
3.Affirmation
4.Gift
5.Service
 I only used tiny weening illustrations in this video. Please men if your woman adds weight and you do not like it, don’t call her ‘fat’, don’t avoid making love to her…and verbally saying until you lose weight you can’t get the best of me in the bedroom….it’s a no!no!

The words you use on spouse is very important, it can make or break a relationship, we women live by words and memories which makes up actions. Men try to imagine yourself as a wife or girlfriend for one day….(you see my point…it ain’t easy

Women try to imagine yourself as a husband or boyfriend for one day (you see my point..it aint easy. Stop comparing your woman with those women you see on Instagram...or social media..most cases the photos are photoshopped or airbrushed..have you seen these women without make up?

Do know some of them wear magic waist bands... Woman that man you are comparing with your man because he has a posh car..latest SUV..do you know if he used his last dime to purchase it...do you know his source of income? For more scope follow me on my Ig:

@vivienaliam,facebook:xpressurselfshow and twitter:Xpressurself_tv.....

69 comments:

Sekeke said...

I picked up something,the touch,my fiancee used to be as slim as you,a few months after I proposed to her she added weight.
I complained because in my family we have weight issues and that was why i fell for her in the first place,apart from her great personality,but this weight created problems for me. Her excuse was that her trip to Dubai for shopping for the wedding was the cause,that she will lose weight its all part of the excitement.
The sad part of it is that she is too lazy to exercise,she is a banker,she hardly finds time to exercise,its a big concern to me.
I have hauled the date,i only told her I was expecting a promotion very soon.
I don not want to quarrel over this. She is the one i want live with for the rest of my life but i detest fat.
i can see the signs already.
The last time we were in bed i told her to turn off the light so i dont see those fat.

Gbole said...

The service aspect i will not try it. My last girlfriend turned me to her house boy.
The relationship packed up. She was told her friend she has me like the palm of her hand.
I was cold when i heard this.
Any woman i date the first thing her tell her is I do not go for errand.

Oseu said...

Great shoes,nice likes. Please how do I get to be as slip as you,i take slim tea but no result yet.
I like your slim figure.
I have taken note of our celebrities they add so much weight,i know the screen has a way of giving somebody extra pounds
That is why Adesua Etomi Wellington will always be my favorite star.

Fortune said...

Your show is great but add weight small,see your collar,very bony. The lady criticizing the celebrities, we are not Hollywood. Adesua etomi is too skinny. We like our women with flesh.
So we we are touching we can feel them.

Ihea said...

You do not have contact number,how do we reach you. Email to me is lame,i want hear your voice on the phone please add it so we can talk

Saje said...

Tell these orobo women,what defines a woman is her shape. Any way you see it,character is what wee study. Our eyes go for the shape before any other thing

Amazi said...

You try for this one,I don learn one thing here

Sharon said...

I love your choice of topic,How do I get my hair to be as long as yours. Are you wearing your natural in this video.
The packing looks nice,I will try it. Since i was born never packed my hair up,i let my fixed hair down and the heat has given me a lot of rashes on my neck but i do not know how I will look with all packed as you have right now. My boyfriend loves when i leave down.

Okobia said...

We want to make money,it is the money that brings love,my woman cannot cheat on me if i am rich,i will spoil her silly with money

Rossie said...

I have no problem with the four issues,the only one my boyfriend does not do is the communication.He bottles things up,very secretive. Our wedding is December and i do not know if i am ready to go through this marraige,it is a life thing agreement.
A man i have known for 11months cannot up to me and he wants me to be his wife?

Abayomi said...

@10:38 Igbo man & money.

Kemmy said...

Hollywood do get fat,Beyonce has added weight.Her fans are still loyal.
Enough with the hypocrisy

Bardi said...

This is wicked,you too tight,na your leg i dey trip for. I will do anything for it. I just dey see fake girls wear skimpy skirt with their chicken legs.Advice them to wear long clothes,one was going on our aisle in the office with 6inches,if see her legs eh,i cover eye o! some ladies,do you take a look at the mirror

Liz said...

Love your afro,and the jump suit.
Love your sense of style.
All your videos are just encouraging.

Alabama said...

Comparison originated from women

Sanya said...

I call my wife fat,she is stubborn and that is the only way to be serious cutting down on her food in take and exercising.Her excuse is that she wants to register in the gym,there is no money for that, our compound is big enough for her to run rounds,i bought a skipping rope,but she full of excuses

Eletu said...

our sex is becoming monotonous. Any tips

Abimbola said...

Intersting.

Arimenze said...

I wish you are my woman,i know i will have a great time

Ojo said...

Mini look alike of my sister.
hello,may I know pweeze

Okewu said...

Your demonstration with the glass is key.
My sister that was packed up her marriage,always comparing her husband friend. The school her children is she was not con-tempted, nagged the man to the point the man had to abandon her over there in the UK

Demmy said...

women’s needs are insatiable, there needs are endless

Nimota said...

We have to run o, that is what works for me, by the time I come back she has cooled her temper

Wahhab said...

Thank you Vivien,love your zeal, love your intelligence. You seem to have it together,as beautiful as you look,not all beautiful women think the way you do.

Florence said...

To send message on this your blog is hard,make it easy for us,I like to comment all the time but takes too long to open.

Tochukwu said...

Hmmm woman if you give her an inch takes a mile

Krystal said...

Well put together

Ezekiel said...

I am loving you more than more, I have dreamed of you this afternoon

Moses said...

I did imagine it, I want to be a woman, it easier

Gideon said...

Relationship matter no one has one answer to a solution, what works for might not work for you

Godson said...

You videos are feeding to the soul,its like going to church, but when the real situation occurs how to apply these methods becomes unrealistic, my girlfriend took my spare car for a day, getting it back is a problem, she has turned to gift, I will soon lose my temper.

ITZ said...

Osheeeeeyyyyyy

Adetayo said...

If know how many times i kissed the screen on my laptop on your lips,you will know i am a true fan, dreams do come true,I will marry you,see your succulent skin

Logun said...

Are you counselling us? A woman counsel a man,in our society,maybe over there not 9jia

Lola said...

For newly married,we are old cargoes

Dudu said...

Sweet! like lolly pup

Teg said...

More kisses to you too dear

Eueu said...

I'm inlove..YEBA,beautiful girl

Ovie said...

Why wont I compare when my husband will give half of his money to his girlfriends,I compare with real men who care for the families before outsiders

Sandy said...

Talk about sex,my husband is lame in bed, cheating is an option for me,I love sex and if I cannot get from him I will have to get else where

Mangus said...

When celebrities start talking about marriages it means they are ready to marry or have married,which are you Vivien

Oluchi said...

Comparison is away to know if you are doing well or not

Somto said...

They borrow,the lightenup their screen with apps,the airbush look real.This from experience I had from a girl I thought we can be together,she deceived me with it,first of all she was not as fair as she claimed,I could see the hair on her upperlip which is bleaching,bleashing always gives hair then the brown powered just confirmed it

Kelechi said...

Women are not contempted so are the men,they will have a gorgeous wife with good character yet they will cheat on you

Ms Ebuka said...

Tell your advice to the new couples we have out grown advice, but you did well

Kimberly said...

Why should we not compare Vivien?

Edo said...

We hear

Eidore said...

Let call a spaid a spaid,Nigerian women want have it all,they want apply American and English culture in African society. Forgetting that the Americans do not have custom or tradition. There are rely on laws which favours only the women.
If a man cheats he gets kick out of his home,if the woman cheats he gets kick out of his phone,his life to prison is a simple phone call by the wife...is that what you women want to become.
Vivien dont waste your time,our women want it all

Edebor said...

I only married because our society a man is complete and respected if he has a wife and children,they are certain places you go,if your not a family man your opinion is not valid

Francis said...

Man /woman matter is endless,we cannot understand each other,we are all managing to co exist because of sex.

Timber said...

Oh! my sweety! my lover

Christopher said...

Hey vivi! how are you doing?
Reply me o! so we know you practice what you preach or else I will slid to Instagram and bother you till you reply me,who know this could lead to our marriage.
Just like Banky w and Adesua.
I am very handsome,a business man..our children will be beautiful I can assure you that. Money is not a problem, our children will be born abroad, i am a citizen so life is easy for you because you look and sound like a woman who needs the best of life

Stella said...

I love your outfit,went through your profile, please which of the email address is active, I want be a model but I do not know how to walk on heels.

Sunday said...

Once in a while,a woman will abuse it,she will turn to her servant.

Tayo said...

My girlfriend is at her best when I have money

Zara said...

Some of the points here are not what she is saying some men what read before ccommenting

Fifi said...

Love Vivien. Great show

Anthony said...

You asked a question what is free sex and sex for fun,i have flipped severally and i have not seen any answer to that

Hilary.P said...

Our Nigerian men are deceptive

Henson said...

Ride on woman

Friday said...

oya all men like me lets try it and see if there will be any change

Sisi said...

Really. my girlfriend will take advantage.

Cicila said...

Tell the these ungrateful men,let them trade for once and see what its like being a woman.

Eyo said...

Will survive Cicila

Damsey said...

The video is not clear,love your voice though

Lilia said...

@Damsey change your *CHINA PHONE, my is perfectly clear.

Erikae said...

Men are lies.

Vivien Nwandu said...

Hi! You can email me on lavivon line@gmail.com or text 09074519298 I respond to these than phone calls

Vivien Nwandu said...

@Rossie try sitting him down explain to him about how you truly feel with scenarios, I'm sure you guys can sort it out, he might have other ways of opening up to you