A mother of four abandons her three sons &shuns husband to settle in Ukraine

This was drafted from an online.  This quite sad,please candid enough with your advice

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I sent my wife to Ukraine to study anesthesiology on the advice of my mentor and wedding sponsor. She left with our last little baby girl leaving me with our three boys who shuttle between staying with my parents at Anthony village and coming home some weekends when i am in town. Its almost 5 yrs now she left us. She finished d course 2014 (almost going to 3yrs now) but refuses to come back home. She claim that she had an offer to also major in pharmacology as she was offered scholarship by a Kiev based immigrant development program. I sold my land at Sapele to finance her before she left. Now she telling me that there is lots of poverty in Nigeria that i should start making arrangement to send our three sons over there while i plan on joining them when i am ready. I really think i have shot myself in the leg with my own gun. My worry is that she could afford to abandon her kids.

Since the later part of 2014, I have refused to put the kids on the phone with her believing that she would miss them and think twice but i was mistaken. I am not daft. I know a man is involved behind the scene. I accused her of being harbored by another man and also of cheating too. she flared up accusing me of being insecure and obsessive. She even threatened to sue me for denying her access to her sons. early last year, during an argument, she told me that i was free to marry another woman if i cant wait after-all some people told her that i dont even sleep at home on weekends. That all she wants is her children that I am free to do as i like. I involved my mentor and even our pastor who also tried talking sense into her and the latest development is that she dosnt take his calls anymore. She told him that if he was truly a man of God that he should advise me to start thinking of moving to Ukrainian instead of supporting me to bring her back to suffering in Nigeria. Even the GS wife who was like a mother to us had to back off when she accused her of intruding into our marriage before banging the phone on her. Am facing lots of temptation,pressure and sexually. As a christian what do i do in this situation cos i know that she is enjoying herself over there with another man. I have been faithful all through. I have even been pushed to masturbate a few times just to maintain my vows before God. She has caused me lots of grief.

 I have not seen my daughter in 5 years. She stopped allowing me to speak to her because i didnt put the boys on the phone. I am losing my mind. I need ur advice and prayers. How can a responsible woman abandoned her family just like that. Its not that we can not move to Europe but it has to be my call not just something she can wake up and force down my throat.