Things get ugly between Adaeze’s mother& John Fashanu

Encomium gives detail of her failed marriage to John Fashanu

Here is her version:

I kicked him out so many times

I’ve kicked him out so many times. He kept doing a lot of things. It was about fraud initially. He was continually defrauding people. That he had a wife that is a lawyer.
He defrauded many footballers, we saw him on TV. N2 million from them, from poor families.He threatened them with guns. And they’d be crying.I kept kicking him out of my house. It was few months after, about a year., That I first kicked him out.

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He came to Abuja without anything. I took him in. He didn’t buy any car for me. I kicked him out two years ago. He moved into his house, four blocks of flats.He completed the house while living there. He used their money to build that house, the money of those footballers he defrauded. He was stalking me, scribbling things on my car He was drawing things on my car. He was caught when he came at night.He was stalking me. He would come in the morning, and draw my attention to the damage.And tell me that I needed his protection. That I couldn’t live alone.Such a thing has never happened in our estate.He was caught and he apologized. Two years ago.I forgave him.
 Why l was never Mrs Fashanu My name is actually Abigail Igwe. He reported me to some people.. He stole my passport, that I should change my name to Fashanu. That was when l wanted to renew my passport in July 2014.He was angry.Within me, the marriage had ended. That was why l was reluctant. We actually got married We were at the registry in 2011. We have our certificate. I didn’t change my name. I didn’t find it necessary to change. We started first of all as business partners. He needed me to find his feet in Abuja. Later on, he said he never saw a woman like me before. That I was calm, unlike other women.That he wanted to marry me. He talked to my pastor friends, that he’s in love with me.

We met in 2008. My daughter was still MBGN.He made me believe that he couldn’t do without me. He was pretending that he liked the way I pray. That I should lead him to Christ. He said he psychologically killed his brother, Justin That he was bad to the extent that he psychologically killed his brother. That the brother was mean to him. The brother didn’t allow him to shine. That people thought he was Justin. That he needed his brother out of the way. He back bit his brother. He then told me that during Justin’s burial he stood behind after. They thought he was mourning. But he was laughing, that he felt happier that his brother committed suicide.That, at last, he can have his way, now shine.That attack is the best form of defence. I told him that the world is not a football pitch. I take it that l never married him I take it like I never married. It’s a lie. I’ve never been married twice before him. You should have asked him what’s the name of my second husband.That guy is a manipulator. I’m not a mean person. He presented many characters. When I kick him out, he calls everybody and beg and harass. He would now come and say it’s the way he was brought up. He’s chameleon. Everybody knows John Fashanu is a chameleon.

I made up my mind, and kicked him out in April 2014. He went to complain to my pastor. He told my pastor that I’d not slept with him for one year. That we should pray.My pastor said this woman can’t sleep with you because of what you’ve done. That if he did all these things to another woman you’d be killed.I never lived with him in his house. He was the one who lived with me. He didn’t pay the rent of N2.5 million He didn’t pay the rent of N2.5 million. He was chased out from Lagos, and came with his bag. He lied that all the hotels in Abuja were fully booked. And I laughed.I had a visitor, who told me to allow him. That you should give him your visitor’s room. He started living with me and my children. That was 2009. We had started dating and doing business. He plotted to marry me Before I got married, he was targeting marriage. He didn’t have money, he pretended very well.He told me to assist him. That he’s changing. He was professing so much love. I never wanted to marry him until he started pressurizing. I told him that the relationship was affecting my Christianity. That we should end the relationship. That was when he started going around my pastors. I gave in to his pressure. I was the one paying the rent I was the one paying the rent. I gave him food, money and shelter. He didn’t have any money.From the business, we made money and we paid the rent.He doesn’t know where I live now.

I have always worked Is that not funny, that I never worked? How do I take care of my children? They are in school in UK and America. He never added a kobo to their fees or upkeep. He doesn’t take care of his children, not to talk of mine. You already know he’s lying.I don’t work, but I’ve helped him find his feet. How else would I assist any person? I got him a N25 million contract Two years ago, after I noticed how he defrauded footballers, I felt bad. I called him. He’s very violent, and was shouting.I went to a place, and sought for a job. I wanted money to take the boys abroad. To organise a talent hunt to send the people abroad. I went to the office of Millennium Development Goals, they gave us a job for N25 million. I used his papers, and they gave us the job in Abuja. I was given N25m to do the job. In the contract, I included that we would send 20 boys to football clubs in Europe. And buy a car to run around. When the money came (into his account), he didn’t want to do anything. I pressurized, and he bought the car. That’s the car he’s claiming he bought for me. We used the car to run around. This man did not send anyone abroad. Even the boys he defrauded, he didn’t. The talent hunt was to help the boys.I felt bad. He cheated me out of a property There’s a land he wanted to build an academy.

 He tried, and he didn’t succeed. Eventually, he included my name in the document, and we finally got the land.We applied for 10, we were given 7 acres.To my amazement, he changed the document to another company’s. My name was not in the new papers.All these toiling came to naught.This happened two years ago. I couldn’t talk. He’s very aggressive. His reply was attack. I am not a lesbian, he never caught me with anybody This is ridiculous. He didn’t catch me with anybody. Because he’s going to court, he’s looking for anything. I had prepared for divorce last year. The lawyer had prepared everything. I got log of my calls from MTN. He was the one that called me from Colombia. I caught him with two women. One was our maid. I caught them in my house. I travelled and came back. He didn’t know.He swore not to give me divorce. That he would frustrate me. He’s a serial househelp sex abuser. He slept with his maid in London. He told me that his girlfriend in Lagos accused him of sleeping with the maid.He was the one that said so. I caught him with my maid in bed The first one was in my house red-handed. I was travelling, and he said he wanted to live in my house. That he would miss me. I came back, accompanied by my friend. She was driving. I was looking for evidence. I told her that I was getting ready for divorce.

When we came in and opened the door, I caught them naked. The house girl is Igbo, and she ran. I called her came back. I spoke in Igbo. I told her that this man is shit. I cannot go back to him, that she should not worry. When the girl asked if I had forgiven her, I said yes. I said she should go back. She said the cook had warned her to stop sleeping with John. How can a man say his wife stole N1 million? He should be ashamed. He used to steal my money. I never asked him. I told my friend to pick the maid’s trousers and slippers…They were all ashamed. My friend picked the items and ran. John chased my friend – and in the process, bashed my car. My friend kept running. I needed the evidence to go to court. He later called my pastor. That he should calm me down. My pastor said I should forget about him. That I should leave him. That the trouble was too much. He told my pastor that I should not go to court now. That I should allow the separation first. He went to pastor to ask him to beg that I should come back. My pastor can testify. I am not violent There was no violence. I’m not a violent person.

Everybody knows I’m tolerant and peaceful. If I were violent, John Fashanu couldn’t marry me. On one occasion, about police inviting me. I kicked him out of my house. I told him that before I come back from church, I should not meet him. He stole some things. So, I went with my son to his uncompleted house. He took my jewels. My son told him to bring those things. He tried to fight my 15 year-old son. He brought a sword, and it cut his fingers. My son ran away.The sword cut his hand. I left. I said I was going to the police. But I went home, instead of going to police.He now ran to police. And told them that my son injured him. I moved to a new house because he was stalking me I moved because he was stalking me.

 He would come around, and park and come as soon as he saw me.He would come and peep through my window. I decided to move. So that he could get used to not seeing me. I sent him a text on December 9. I wanted my peace. That was why I relinquished the land and all…He sent a picture of himself in his kitchen. That he had renovated the whole house. That I could now come backThat he wanted me back ( in January 2015).He lives in one flat. It is four blocks of flats… He’s ranting like a woman He’s talking like a woman, and I’m only refuting his allegations. I don’t want to expose him.I’ve not told you anything yet, until I get to court.When I get to court I will unveil more. I’m not contesting the divorce It’s a good thing that he has gone to court. He should even go and finish the case by himself, and bring the certificate. I’m not contesting anything. He should have informed me about the divorce if he’s a sane man

.What he’s doing is what women do. Let them finish the divorce, I can only be in court when I’m called. Without that, I don’t need to be in court. After all, we don’t have children together.