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Sunday, 10 June 2018

Men stop comparing! a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush -Vivien Nwandu



Men are easier to please than women….(quote)..Fair enough. But you men need to cherish what you have…remember that saying a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush! In my last post I talked about what value is a woman adding in her partner’s life… Today I am asking the men apart from providing finances, what other ways can you make your partner see you as ‘one in a million’ Remember money cannot buy love……(you don’t want to be the type who just provide money and your partner ‘still’ cheats on you….

Ok its time for us to xpress ourselves on some of the issues men forget most times…

I will focus more on
1.Touch
2.Communication
3.Affirmation
4.Gift
5.Service
 I only used tiny weening illustrations in this video. Please men if your woman adds weight and you do not like it, don’t call her ‘fat’, don’t avoid making love to her…and verbally saying until you lose weight you can’t get the best of me in the bedroom….it’s a no!no!

The words you use on spouse is very important, it can make or break a relationship, we women live by words and memories which makes up actions. Men try to imagine yourself as a wife or girlfriend for one day….(you see my point…it ain’t easy

Women try to imagine yourself as a husband or boyfriend for one day (you see my point..it aint easy. Stop comparing your woman with those women you see on Instagram...or social media..most cases the photos are photoshopped or airbrushed..have you seen these women without make up?

Do know some of them wear magic waist bands... Woman that man you are comparing with your man because he has a posh car..latest SUV..do you know if he used his last dime to purchase it...do you know his source of income? For more scope follow me on my Ig:

@vivienaliam,facebook:xpressurselfshow and twitter:Xpressurself_tv.....

69 comments:

  1. I picked up something,the touch,my fiancee used to be as slim as you,a few months after I proposed to her she added weight.
    I complained because in my family we have weight issues and that was why i fell for her in the first place,apart from her great personality,but this weight created problems for me. Her excuse was that her trip to Dubai for shopping for the wedding was the cause,that she will lose weight its all part of the excitement.
    The sad part of it is that she is too lazy to exercise,she is a banker,she hardly finds time to exercise,its a big concern to me.
    I have hauled the date,i only told her I was expecting a promotion very soon.
    I don not want to quarrel over this. She is the one i want live with for the rest of my life but i detest fat.
    i can see the signs already.
    The last time we were in bed i told her to turn off the light so i dont see those fat.

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  2. The service aspect i will not try it. My last girlfriend turned me to her house boy.
    The relationship packed up. She was told her friend she has me like the palm of her hand.
    I was cold when i heard this.
    Any woman i date the first thing her tell her is I do not go for errand.

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  3. Great shoes,nice likes. Please how do I get to be as slip as you,i take slim tea but no result yet.
    I like your slim figure.
    I have taken note of our celebrities they add so much weight,i know the screen has a way of giving somebody extra pounds
    That is why Adesua Etomi Wellington will always be my favorite star.

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  4. Your show is great but add weight small,see your collar,very bony. The lady criticizing the celebrities, we are not Hollywood. Adesua etomi is too skinny. We like our women with flesh.
    So we we are touching we can feel them.

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  5. You do not have contact number,how do we reach you. Email to me is lame,i want hear your voice on the phone please add it so we can talk

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    1. Hi! You can email me on lavivon line@gmail.com or text 09074519298 I respond to these than phone calls

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  6. Tell these orobo women,what defines a woman is her shape. Any way you see it,character is what wee study. Our eyes go for the shape before any other thing

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  7. You try for this one,I don learn one thing here

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  8. I love your choice of topic,How do I get my hair to be as long as yours. Are you wearing your natural in this video.
    The packing looks nice,I will try it. Since i was born never packed my hair up,i let my fixed hair down and the heat has given me a lot of rashes on my neck but i do not know how I will look with all packed as you have right now. My boyfriend loves when i leave down.

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  9. We want to make money,it is the money that brings love,my woman cannot cheat on me if i am rich,i will spoil her silly with money

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  10. I have no problem with the four issues,the only one my boyfriend does not do is the communication.He bottles things up,very secretive. Our wedding is December and i do not know if i am ready to go through this marraige,it is a life thing agreement.
    A man i have known for 11months cannot up to me and he wants me to be his wife?

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    1. @Rossie try sitting him down explain to him about how you truly feel with scenarios, I'm sure you guys can sort it out, he might have other ways of opening up to you

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  11. @10:38 Igbo man & money.

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  12. Hollywood do get fat,Beyonce has added weight.Her fans are still loyal.
    Enough with the hypocrisy

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  13. This is wicked,you too tight,na your leg i dey trip for. I will do anything for it. I just dey see fake girls wear skimpy skirt with their chicken legs.Advice them to wear long clothes,one was going on our aisle in the office with 6inches,if see her legs eh,i cover eye o! some ladies,do you take a look at the mirror

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  14. Love your afro,and the jump suit.
    Love your sense of style.
    All your videos are just encouraging.

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  15. Comparison originated from women

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  16. I call my wife fat,she is stubborn and that is the only way to be serious cutting down on her food in take and exercising.Her excuse is that she wants to register in the gym,there is no money for that, our compound is big enough for her to run rounds,i bought a skipping rope,but she full of excuses

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  17. our sex is becoming monotonous. Any tips

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  18. I wish you are my woman,i know i will have a great time

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  19. Mini look alike of my sister.
    hello,may I know pweeze

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  20. Your demonstration with the glass is key.
    My sister that was packed up her marriage,always comparing her husband friend. The school her children is she was not con-tempted, nagged the man to the point the man had to abandon her over there in the UK

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  21. women’s needs are insatiable, there needs are endless

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  22. We have to run o, that is what works for me, by the time I come back she has cooled her temper

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  23. Thank you Vivien,love your zeal, love your intelligence. You seem to have it together,as beautiful as you look,not all beautiful women think the way you do.

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  24. To send message on this your blog is hard,make it easy for us,I like to comment all the time but takes too long to open.

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  25. Hmmm woman if you give her an inch takes a mile

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  26. Well put together

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  27. I am loving you more than more, I have dreamed of you this afternoon

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  28. I did imagine it, I want to be a woman, it easier

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  29. Relationship matter no one has one answer to a solution, what works for might not work for you

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  30. You videos are feeding to the soul,its like going to church, but when the real situation occurs how to apply these methods becomes unrealistic, my girlfriend took my spare car for a day, getting it back is a problem, she has turned to gift, I will soon lose my temper.

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  31. If know how many times i kissed the screen on my laptop on your lips,you will know i am a true fan, dreams do come true,I will marry you,see your succulent skin

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  32. Are you counselling us? A woman counsel a man,in our society,maybe over there not 9jia

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  33. For newly married,we are old cargoes

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  34. Sweet! like lolly pup

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  35. More kisses to you too dear

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  36. I'm inlove..YEBA,beautiful girl

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  37. Why wont I compare when my husband will give half of his money to his girlfriends,I compare with real men who care for the families before outsiders

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  38. Talk about sex,my husband is lame in bed, cheating is an option for me,I love sex and if I cannot get from him I will have to get else where

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  39. When celebrities start talking about marriages it means they are ready to marry or have married,which are you Vivien

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  40. Comparison is away to know if you are doing well or not

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  41. They borrow,the lightenup their screen with apps,the airbush look real.This from experience I had from a girl I thought we can be together,she deceived me with it,first of all she was not as fair as she claimed,I could see the hair on her upperlip which is bleaching,bleashing always gives hair then the brown powered just confirmed it

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  42. Women are not contempted so are the men,they will have a gorgeous wife with good character yet they will cheat on you

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  43. Tell your advice to the new couples we have out grown advice, but you did well

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  44. Why should we not compare Vivien?

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  45. Let call a spaid a spaid,Nigerian women want have it all,they want apply American and English culture in African society. Forgetting that the Americans do not have custom or tradition. There are rely on laws which favours only the women.
    If a man cheats he gets kick out of his home,if the woman cheats he gets kick out of his phone,his life to prison is a simple phone call by the wife...is that what you women want to become.
    Vivien dont waste your time,our women want it all

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  46. I only married because our society a man is complete and respected if he has a wife and children,they are certain places you go,if your not a family man your opinion is not valid

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  47. Man /woman matter is endless,we cannot understand each other,we are all managing to co exist because of sex.

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  48. Oh! my sweety! my lover

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  49. Hey vivi! how are you doing?
    Reply me o! so we know you practice what you preach or else I will slid to Instagram and bother you till you reply me,who know this could lead to our marriage.
    Just like Banky w and Adesua.
    I am very handsome,a business man..our children will be beautiful I can assure you that. Money is not a problem, our children will be born abroad, i am a citizen so life is easy for you because you look and sound like a woman who needs the best of life

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  50. I love your outfit,went through your profile, please which of the email address is active, I want be a model but I do not know how to walk on heels.

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  51. Once in a while,a woman will abuse it,she will turn to her servant.

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  52. My girlfriend is at her best when I have money

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  53. Some of the points here are not what she is saying some men what read before ccommenting

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  54. Love Vivien. Great show

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  55. You asked a question what is free sex and sex for fun,i have flipped severally and i have not seen any answer to that

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  56. Our Nigerian men are deceptive

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  57. oya all men like me lets try it and see if there will be any change

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  58. Really. my girlfriend will take advantage.

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  59. Tell the these ungrateful men,let them trade for once and see what its like being a woman.

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  60. Will survive Cicila

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  61. The video is not clear,love your voice though

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  62. @Damsey change your *CHINA PHONE, my is perfectly clear.

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